Everything I wanted to escape as a child was mediocrity. Being average, laying on the medium, accounted as the center variable was the curse of all mankind. As years pass, I’m daily faced with the reality that I am the average. I am the medium variable. I am like your friend’s cousin’s mother’s neighbor’s daughter who wants so much more in life, but is painfully average.
But this year has reminded me that average people can do amazing things. One step out of the proverbially boat can change your life. One rock can kill a giant. One prayer can heal the sick. One act of an average person can cause a ripple effect in the hearts, lives, and minds of those watching.
The goal isn’t to be average. The goal is to identify what you can do given your circumstances. In 2012, I don’t want us to look at who we are. I want to look at who we can be. Even if it feels average. Enjoy the rewind post!
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The average age someone accepts Jesus as their savior is 6. The average American will graduate high school at 18. The average marrying age is 27. The average age a women has a child is 25. The average age a house is purchased is 34. The average age of retiring from a profession is 65. The average life span is 76 years.
Average. Average sounds like a dirty word. Maybe it’s because my inner, delusional perfectionist believes I’m not average. But to a large extent, the numbers, statistics, and percentages are based on people much like me. Sure, I didn’t marry by 27, let alone birth a child, but my life is much like yours.
I have dreams and goals, fears and failures. We all do. Owning a home, graduating college, traveling there, getting that job, meeting that person. But in between the dreams and fear, in between the goals and failure, is where we find our self most of the time.
I want to live life on the edge all while holding to a safety rope. I want to make the world better, but I don’t want it to cost me anything. I want to heal and mend and restore, but it can’t make me uncomfortable or scared or tired.
I want to be safe. I want to be assured. I want to be… average.
What if our lives looked different? What if maybe, just maybe, we are be risk takers? What if God is calling you, average middle aged woman, older business man, young college student, to get out of the boat and walk on water?
Peter was still an average man. He still worked his average job. He still made average mistakes. But his life was anything but average after he encountered the living God.
I’m average. And the truth is you’re average too. But I serve a God who wants to use me and you and our average lives, at t-ball games, in offices, on campus, to live lives knowing we can walk on water. If we ask…
Your words, and your thoughts always connect with me on the days I need it most. Like some “inner-channeling” process is happening and the words are then in front of me/written by you, instead of just being in my head.
P.S. Almost finished with the Marked By Love Series!! Epic….Thank you Bianca for being you!!
Just an FYI, I fully breakdown and cry the last session. UGH! So embarrassing!
I feel a good cry on my part comin up…..stay tuned. Happy New Year!!
We are average but unique and very special in the eyes of God. i dont know why but he loves us just as we are.
This is beautiful. Love, love LOVE hearing your voice in these posts. Wonderful stuff. x
Dear B,
I heart this, just what I needed to hear and commit to prayer as we face a new year…**I want to live life on the edge all while holding to a safety rope. I want to make the world better, but I don’t want it to cost me anything.** hits home sister! Lord Help me.
Thank you for always just simply sharing your heart blesses so many of us your blog readers 😉
Wishing you and your precious family a wonderful New Year…. Big hug sister!
Luv e.
Thanks for your words Bianca, that’s where I am right now feeling average and wanting more for my life and my families. We have been through a very difficult season of life, but I do know he has his purpose in this. I just don’t see it yet.
Thank you for such a great blog today Bianca! I pray this year will be non-average year for me.
Love, Mom
Wow. I have no words… God bless U Bianca!
Please pray for me. I dishonor Jesus my God with my thoughts and I don’t want to. It’s impossible for me, but Jesus can make me be at peace with Him with my heart and my mind at all times. I want to meditate on God like David did. I want to bless Jesus my God with my thoughts. Please pray.
-Ana Sofia
Thanks for sharing on being ‘average’ I just hit my later thirties – ive been reflecting on how my life has also become seemingly ordinary in certain ways. I live in the suburbs, I’m a wife & mom, I drive a minivan, I have a desk job, I’m involved in my church and children’s school. Just a decade ago I would never have dreamed of this life. In my twenties I loved and followed after adventure – a life NOT ordinary/boring. Like I said my life is “Seemingly” ordinary/average – however looks can be deceiving becaurs a life walking in the paths that God has prepared for me is the greatest adventure of ALL.
Hey Bianca! I love your website and all you’re doing to reach out to people for Christ. So awesome!
I reposted this “on being average…” on my website’s Facebook. http://www.thedontlovedare.com
Check it out if you get a minute, and have a blessed day girl!! <3Audry Cece
Oh Bianca! The line “But in between the dreams and fear, in between the goals and failure, is where we find our self most of the time.”
So beautiful, and so where Im at.
Thanks for giving me a little faith today xx