I had not really planned on taking a trip this time of year, and yet I found myself packing rather hurriedly. This trip was going to be unpleasant and I knew in advance that no real good would come of it. I’m talking about my annual “Guilt Trip.”
I got tickets to fly there on Wish I Had Airlines. It was an extremely short flight. I got my baggage, which I could not check. I chose to carry it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a thousand memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the terminal to the Regret City International Airport. I say international because people from all over the world come to this dismal town.
As I checked into the Last Resort Hotel, I noticed that they would be hosting the year’s most important event, the Annual Pity Party. I wasn’t going to miss that great social occasion. Many of the towns leading citizens would be there.
First, there would be the Done family, you know, Should Have, Would Have and Could Have. Then came the I Had family. You probably know ol’ Wish and his clan. Of course, the Opportunities would be present, Missed and Lost. The biggest family would be the Yesterday’s. There are far too many of them to count, but each one would have a very sad story to share.
Then Shattered Dreams would surely make and appearance. And It’s Their Fault would regale us with stories (excuses) about how things had failed in his life, and each story would be loudly applauded by Don’t Blame Me and I Couldn’t Help It.
Well, to make a long story short, I went to this depressing party knowing that there would be no real benefit in doing so. And, as usual, I became very depressed. But as I thought about all of the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that all of this trip and subsequent “pity party” could be cancelled by ME!
I started to truly realize that I did not have to be there. I didn’t have to be depressed. One thing kept going through my mind, I CAN’T CHANGE YESTERDAY, BUT I DO HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE TODAY A WONDERFUL DAY. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged, as well as encouraging. Knowing this, I left the City of Regret immediately and left no forwarding address. Am I sorry for mistakes I’ve made in the past? YES! But there is no physical way to undo them.
So, if you’re planning a trip back to the City of Regret, please cancel all your reservations now. Instead, take a trip to a place called, Starting Again. I liked it so much that I have now taken up permanent residence there. My neighbors, the I Forgive Myselfs and the New Starts are so very helpful. By the way, you don’t have to carry around heavy baggage, because the load is lifted from your shoulders upon arrival. God bless you in finding this great town. If you can find it — it’s in your own heart — please look me up. I live on I Can Do It street. —Larry Harp
The only things you’ll regret are the things you didn’t have the courage to do.
Blessed!! I’ve traveled to this dismal town, many times and I always find myself beat and worn down, but like you… I immediately take off! I get on the 1st flight back to “Jesus Loves Me” this I know for the bible tells me so!
Love you B!
Boricua!!!!
This is so good!!! This weekend I was at the “when leaders lead” conference and as I sat there, I found myself not only being filled but taking a little trip on what I am not doing train and feeling a little defeated.
I left with the hope in my calling and what it looks like and what I need to do. This morning of course the enemy invited me on a the trip, that my calling is to demanding and changes couldn’t be made, but I, in the name of Jesus told him to get off my train, because my stop is victory!
Btw on the way home a few of us ladies were talking about how fab you were, and the impacts that you and your family is making because you have all embraced YOUR callings!! If you your ears were ringing 🙂
XOXOXO
Bianca, your last few posts have really touched my heart in ways I can’t express with words. I just wanted to say Thank You for doing what you do!
I’m not sure if I’m suppose to comment this way but I need advice…
I can’t seem to get out of the pity party. I’m away from my family and I have a hard time getting use to the changes in my life. I tell myself that I need to focus on the positive but in my heart I fell a piece missing.
This is so good…and so true. I’ve also added a side excursion on this trip: I’ve driven myself to Insanity with my worrying. Insanity was never meant to be a destination on my journey, but sometimes it takes me a while to leave it behind. =)
I don’t just make guilt trips . . . I have Guilt Sojourns! And they offer me free tickets at the most inconvenient times . . .
Love this 😉