I laughed and let her believe a boy she never met or whose name she can’t pronounce will be her future husband for eternity. Justin Beaver [as she says] has swooned and crooned many young girls into infectious state of twitterpation, not love. There’s a scene in Disney’s classic movie Bambi, where the wise old owl explains what happens in spring to the young animals: They become twitterpated. Symptoms include being starry eyed, rapid heartbeat, and occasional drool. 😉
In her tender little heart, she really believes she loves him because she feels something. But feelings fade. Feelings aren’t—and shouldn’t be—indicators of love. Byproducts, secondary qualifiers, added benefits? Absolutely! But what takes young, amateurish twitterpation to the place of real, authentic love?
Tonight in our penultimate gathering for our summer series, we will be discussing what a heart marked by love looks like. If we truly love God like we say we do, what should, could, and would our life look like? Join Tim Timmons for an acoustic worship set and me for a time in God’s word tonight at 7pm PST. You can watch us live online by clicking here.
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Last question: If you could define the difference between loving and being in love, how would you define it? There’s no wrong answer, so speak candidly. 🙂
this is a tuff one, I think when you love somebody it’s when you care a lot about them and worry for them, but being in love it’s when you feel like you will run out of air if you don’t have the person you love close to you, or you feel a hole in your stomached and you don’t know why or how this hole happened, I have yet to know if I’m in love or just love someone, I have asked myself that question over and over I even ask my husband plenty of time, how do you know you love someone? And he always said I know I love u and I cannot live without you. every time he gave me that answer without any sarcasms or any hint of irony I get scare when I asked myself that question what is love and sometime I felt like I’m not capable enough to feel such amazing feeling, I know I’m not making any sense but love it’s hard to define.. I think the only true love that I know (Not being cheesy) it’s God's love or a mother love I think that the only pure love that is out there… I’m done… =D
"…like you can't live without them."
Exactly.
I believe "being in love" has more to do with romance and emotions. Everyone enjoys the highs that come with being in love or falling in love. The heart is fickle and can't be trusted….emotions are like a roller coaster. Some days ya feel it and other days ya don't. On the other hand, loving someone is a choice. I can choose to love my husband on days that aren't romance novel material. I do things for him because I choose to love him by preparing his meals, laundering his clothes, giving him a hug after a rough day at work. Loving my children is choosing to help them with tough problems, spending time with them, laughing together, and when needed, disciplining them.
When we love like Christ loves us, we love others, not because they deserve our love (because on some days they may not!) but because of Christ's great love for us, we are free to love others. When an individual knows the deep love of Christ, she is free to share that love with others. Sometimes it is in a romantic way, sometimes it might be loving someone through job loss, the loss of a loved one, an illness, or the day to day grind.
Beautiful. Just beautiful.
Love that I have shown to others:
1. Reached out to her, even though she had clearly stated that she does not care for me or my friendship
2. Accepted responsability for witholding love from my 18 yr old because he had made the wrong decision
3. Wake up at 5:30 every morning to make breakfast and lunch for my hubby to take to work
4. Accepted the fact that my hubby wanted a dog, so we got one from the pound and are in love wth him..Toby, a mastiff.. a big dog!!!
Love that has been shown to me:
1. Christ.. that's the first and most importantly
2. Hubby washes dishes often
3. Was forgiven by my 18yr old and we are moving forward to restore our relationship
4. My family has accepted that I must vaccuum at least 6 times per day
5. They have also accepted my OCD behavior
6. Hubby accepted that ironing is difficult for me,not because I can't do it. I just hate it
7. Was allowed to nap on Saturday
8. Is treated with love and compassion whn I deserve to be yelled at or scolded..
and there is so much more. Being in love is having the warm fuzzies, the warmness turns cold when people don't agree with us or do something we don't like.. and this took me 2 hrs to post because my children needed attention.. talk about having ot have patience!!!
Psalm 27. Man/woman will fail us. But our Lord Jesus Christ never will.
God will never fail us. I keep repeating that over and over today.:)
I know this is about a love between man and woman, intimate. But lately I've been dealing with the Love between friends, or the Love for a pastor (not like that… but where you look up to them) or family. I learned to love them and understand that eventually, one day they will fail me, disappoint me, and even hurt me. Not that I'm waiting for it, but I know in advance to forgive them, because I know I will fail them as well. But that is humanity, we are not perfect. It's the intention and motive that should be evaluated. And for some reason I say this with my Pastor in mind. (Not Pancho, I go to another church but come to CCM as well) When my Pastor upset me and disappointed me, I put him in such a high standard that I actually got upset at God… as if it was by his doing. I learned quickly that no matter what the title the person has… they still have limitations, (As do I, thats for sure!) Whether Pastor, Priest, Best Friend, Father, Mother or even Husband, They are man/woman, they will fail us, But Jesus never will.
misery yes, i want write something like this but didnt have age, may i repost this In The Name Of Love » Blog Archive » heart marked by love…
AFAICT you’ve cevored all the bases with this answer!
Love is everything selfishness is not. Love is honest and compassionate, but kind enough to tell you the hard things at the risk of losing what I love. Selfishness makes it so easy to tell you the things I think you want to hear. Love makes it easier to be real. I didn't say easy. I said easier.
Being in love? I don't know. Honestly, haven't ever been there. But what I would imagine is hope and trust and dependence for the future. Safe and vulnerable all at the same time. A willingness to lay it all out there and risk being hurt with a greater chance of being loved.
Just my thoughts on the subject. 🙂
That first paragraph….great description. Someone did that exact thing with me and now in hindsight I see they were selfish. Lesson I learned from it…to recognize it better. I don't regret how I was in the relationship beause I was open and honest with who I am…faults and all and accepting of the same in return. Just wasn't really getting that in return.
Being in Love is waiting to receive something in return.
Loving someone is an act of giving not waiting for something in return?
i'll try to stay up, but it's already 1:36am in Spain!
Hola mi amiga! Espana? Que suave!What part of Spain are you from?SO cool!!!
Hola Bianca! I'm in Valencia now, but I'm originally from Poland 🙂 Besos!
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I think Love is action, it's easy to say we love people but then don't show that in our actions. It's like when people say they love Jesus but yet practice the very things that are contrary to the word of God such as homosexuality, drunkeness, fornication, adultery etc. If you live a life of sin then you don't love God.
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