In the 2011 wrap-up, I’m realizing I’ve had many moments where melting down felt like my only option. I’ve also discovered I’m not alone. Charlie Sheen, Khloe Kardashian, Lindsey Lohan all melted down in 2011. In no way shape or form do I want to be associated with those names, but at least I don’t feel so bad. 😉
As we head into 2012, remember, it’s okay not to be okay. Enjoy the rewind post from 2011!
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When life is tough and you feel like you can’t go on, it’s okay to not be okay.
When money is tight and you are stressed about the bills, it’s okay to not be okay.
When your heart is broken and you’re devastated and alone, it’s okay to not be okay.
When life doesn’t make sense and you feel lost in a maze, it’s okay to not be okay.
When dreams are shattered by reality, it’s okay to not be okay.
When death takes someone you love, it’s okay to not be okay.
Sometimes as Christians we lose perspective of the One who fights for us. Like, since we’re Christians we shouldn’t lose our marbles, yell alone in our car, or cry because life is too much. We should be perfect and pretty and polished. We should quote scripture and hold onto to promises and never, ever be angry.
However, when I look at scripture I see ordinary people, serving an extraordinary God, still have meltdowns. David was a emotional basket-case; yet he was king. Job cursed his birth; yet lived a long life. Naomi admitted she was bitter and forgotten; yet her promise was met.
These characters had space to not be okay. And it was okay.
In moments of confusion, desperation, or bitterness, don’t hide alone in a closet. Or worse, don’t isolate someone because they’re not okay. We all need space to process our emotions without the feeling of needing to be fake or fine or in control. God’s in control. We run around like fools acting like the world is ending until He stops us, reminds us, and assures us… everything is going to be okay.
In the meantime, know you have the space on this blog to say when you’re not okay. I will be a good listener… unless you’re in sin and I bust a Cher in Moonstruck on you!
I remember this one! I also remember having a melt down of my own a time or few in 2011…and yes. I am ok with not being ok all of the time 🙂
I am looking forward to your 2012 posts…2012 here we come!
I pray that Charlie Sheen and Lindsay Lohan find sobriety. While it’s easy to look at them and judge or scorn or laugh, these are people in tremendous pain in the midst of something life-threatening. I pray they find God and His grace that can transform them and their lives in powerful ways.
As for Khloe, I’m not sure what kind of help she needs but I’m sure God can and would provide it…..if the three of them would seek Him.
It’s okay to not be okay. They’re just not okay in a different, some-would-say-less-acceptable, way.
Rooted & grounded in love,
Deb
Good message.
I love this post, B!
This was one of my favorite blogs from this year. For realsies. This whole year was a HOT MESS! family, money, friends, relationships…baby Jesus, I don’t even know where to begin! When I have these days that feel like forever, I always bump some Hillsong or listen to 107.9. But then it totally hit me, listening to worship songs and messages isn’t (necessarily) going to take away my worry or doubt. WE’RE HUMAN! We are supposed to feel that! And like you say, it’s OKAY! Just because we are Christians doesn’t mean we don’t have issues. Whether Catholic, Muslim, or Atheist..we alllllllll struggle and have those moments where we are pretty sure the world is resting on our shoulders. But, it’s okay. We can freak out and don’t have to fake the funk like life is perfect! It’s in those moments of me freaking out like a chicken with my head cut off that brings me closer to my close friends who will help me and pray with me, but more importantly, it brings me closer to Christ.
Love you girl and thank you for K.I.R 😉
Anneliese
yeesh. Summer 2011 will be known as the summer of meltdowns for Erica. Thank you thank you thank you thank you for the reminder that its ok to not be ok. I think I’ll go scream in my car now.
Iam learning it is ok not ti be ok. Thanks for the support.
Thanks for a great post, Bianca! love it. My dreams were shattered this year, but I’m sure God will replace it with His dreams which are bigger and more beautiful than mine.
Looking forward for your next post. God bless you, and have a happy new year, dear!
Awesome. So thankful that our Great Big God can handle our meltdowns and messes.
Thanks for sharing! I’ll be back for sure!
This was one of my favorite blogs. Before reading this blog I felt like it was not ok for me to not to feel ok, like I was letting God down for not being joyful all the time. I had times where I feel like there was no room for me to not be ok, or have a breakdown. Yet this blog reminded me that it is ok not to be ok and that God is in control at all times. Now I find beauty after a meltdown, because it reminds me that he is there and that I am nothing without him. Thanks Bianca for sharing this It has truly made a difference in my life. God bless
-Priscilla Rodriguez
Thank you for this post soo much.
A long-term dream and goal was not fulfilled despite my relentless effort in the past months, and so I have been fumbling around in despair asking God why.
Thank you for reminding me that GOD is in control, and he will provide if only we trust Him.
I really love reading your blogs. This one really hit me in the heart. Truth is I haven’t been okay in a very long time. It will be 5 years this year that I lost who I believed was my soulmate. He was murdered by an evil person who laughed in my face when I had to attend court for the trial. Since then life changed for me. I have been depressed and hatefull. I can also say I’ve been angry with God at times. I know it’s not right but it’s how I feel. It feels like I was played a joke on, I was given this wonderful man who loved me only to have him be taken away from me in the most brutal way. I don’t understand it! I’ve been a good person most of my life, why did this happen to me? It has made me question what I once believed. Anywho, thank you for posting this.