She came up to me and asked, How do you know? How do you know when you’re to commit to someone? The advice given to me is the advice I gave to her and now I give to you.
Fall in love only when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
Any other advice to share? Any tidbit or learning that’s helped you in the dating process?
Be happy where you are. Your happiness is your decision.
“Fall in love only when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely”… perfectly said and great advice! I might just have to pass this along. 🙂
Thanks! 🙂
I remember asking my sister that same question last fall. He was a solid man of God, and was so great. But I still didn’t have peace. Her answer to me was, “when you don’t have to ask.” I am looking forward to that day! Psalm 37:4 is a promise that it’s to come! God is faithful.
Yes!
Melanie, your sister is right! When I began a friendship with my husband (we call it denial dating now), he felt like home. I just knew. It’s crazy! I have made the mistake of hanging out with a fella in the past simply because I was lonely and terribly bored. It was obvious he was no good, but he gave me the time, energy, and attention I so craved. Don’t settle! In the end I was left heartbroken by someone that didn’t care about me and didn’t love Jesus and had a job whenever he felt like it. That took a long time to get over! It’s not worth it ladies! God is soooo incredibly faithful and He knows your desires. Just wait and see.
yes! Erica, I LOVE you!!! Thank you so much for these words of wisdom!
Good advice, never settle for anything,less than what God has for you. The person must be a born again Christian no exceptions
I just want to know how it is that you can be sure that, “that” certain person is the “right one”, the One that the Lord has set for us in this world??
Oh, you and you’re Momma are so right.
I’ve been married for 2 (long) years and I have far too often found myself regretting it. He became my daily cross.
BUT God is faithful and he hears my pain and my prayers and for the first time ever I can see God doing some amazing things in my husbands life- seriously. It’s so awesome that you know God is the only one capable of making it happen. God is soooo good. Like the David Crowder Band song… “When all of a sudden I am unaware of these afflictions eclipsed by glory…” It’s like that.
Through my husbands struggles and addictions I realized that I had never let go of control. This last situation took me down and I finally let go of control… I just let it go, I stopped fighting it God used my husband’s situation to show me something huge about myself as well.
Anyway, yes ladies, be patient, wait on God and know that being married to the wrong person is worse than being alone. Things are slowly changing for me but had I fallen in love with God sooner I would not have got myself in to the situation that I am in. Or maybe I married the right person at the wrong time… I don’t know. God has been very good to me despite all the things marriage has been for me and let me tell you it has been nothing of what I dreamt of… not even close. Just wait on God, be patient.
I know I’m safest when I’m in Your will, and trust Your Word – Lecrae (Background)
Wow, you’re honesty is SO refreshing. So, so refreshing! Thank you for sharing from your wisdom. I’m committed to praying for you and your husband. Much love, B
I dated someone for 16 months and never felt comfortable at all with him. It was always EFFORT. But I held on because, truthfully, there weren’t any other single christian guys my age in my life. I had to really trust God because when I broke up with him I truly felt like I was giving up on marriage.
And I was! The WRONG marriage.
6 months later the guy God had for me walked into church! You know it’s right when you enjoy each others company and you become each others best friend. It’s easy.
SO precious! I love it.
Before I was a Christian, I lived with a guy. I didn`t want to be alone. It ended up being a very abusive relationship. I`m thankful to get out of that relationship alive.
Now that I`m a Christian I know that what God has in store for me will be better then anything I could come up with on my own.
Girls: WAIT for God. His gifts and timing are always perfect. I know it`s hard but it`ll be worth the wait.
Right now I am single and still waiting, but He`s using that time to heal me and prepare me for the time ahead….. 🙂
Amen. Thank you for the encouragement.
Blessings,
Ana 🙂
that’s funny because earlier I was just thinking how sad it is that people are just “test runs.” It took my boyfriend and I two years before we broke up.. So how many more long relationships will I have to go through before I find my husband, if it’s the Lord’s will?
It’s just sad because I think you need to date for a while before you can decide on something like marriage, and by then, if it’s not God’s will, it’s such a heartbreak and feels like wasted time.
As others have shared, by biggest advice comes from my own journey. I learned last year you can’t marry or date someone’s potential. Is he God’s best just the way he is?
The second was from Bianca. She shared awhile back, How he loves God is how he will love you.
Amen, child! Amen! Mad love to you.
Happiness is your decision, whether you’re alone, with friends or a couple.
Please pray that Jesus would give me a wonderful husband who loves Jesus and who can lead me Spiritually.
Thank you.
-Ana